Our moods and attitudes impact the people around us, and we probably don’t even fully recognize the extent of it.Have you ever found yourself feeling slightly grumpy, only to realize that the person you’re with is being a downer? Can seeing certain cheerful people automatically make your day feel a little brighter? We are deeply affected by the attitudes of those whom we’re surrounded by, which is why it’s so important to surround ourselves with people who uplift us.
If you’ve ever worked in an environment with a boss who exhibits cold behaviors and negative outlooks, you may have noticed that this tends to affect the whole team or office. As a leader, it’s absolutely imperative to put out an attitude that you want to be replicated. If you want a warm, encouraging environment where everyone feels welcome and supported, you have to create a warm and encouraging space.
Simply put, when it comes to attitude, we tend to receive what we put out. If we go to the grocery store and are curt with the cashier, they’re more likely to treat us in that same way rather than to tell us to have a nice day. Maybe your coworker rarely smiles or acknowledges you, but if you make a habit of greeting him/her in the mornings, you might find that they’ll eventually do the same.
Author Charles R. Swindoll once famously stated, “I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.” That 90% is our attitude. If 90% of our life is based off of the way we react to events, circumstances, troubles, and issues, of course it’s an important aspect of our lives, and it makes sense that it would affect those around us.
Sometimes we can’t help but be in a foul mood, but we have choices around how we manage ourselves. It doesn’t do us or anyone else any good to take our frustrations out on those around us. People might notice if you seem off, a little upset, or angry, but they will definitely notice if you seem upset or angry with them. When we’re feeling down, we are still able to treat people with respect and kindness. We don’t always have to have a happy-go-lucky attitude, but coworkers, friends, family, and strangers are affected by the attitude that we put out, so try to make it a good one.